Elements for Change


A – F Investigate Perceptions

Auto-Thoughts. Things we tell ourselves in an automatic, rote way. (Ex: “I’m alone” or “Money is


Beliefs. A thought that has been thought so many times it’s now accepted as true. (Ex: “Being

alone is terrible” or “Money is the root of all evil.”)

Consequences. How uninterrupted thought streams play havoc with your life. (Ex: Believing that

loneliness is the automatic consequence to being alone makes things more likely to play out that

way when you are alone.)

Dig. Auto-Thoughts and Beliefs are often buried. Not invisible, just not evident on a conscious

level. Be willing to dig for information. (Ex: Unexamined guilt might make you believe that

loneliness was deserved.)

Emotion A big indicator of how well your thoughts are working. If you don’t like the emotion, get

rid of the thought. (Ex: Extreme sadness, or even depression, can be traced back to loneliness and

the thought that it is deserved.)

Family. Our environment—from nuclear family to the greater extended family of those who

surround and influence us—friends, family, and others we look up to. Our work family. Even, and

not least of all, the media. These all influence the what we think and believe. Our most hidden

thoughts, along with their accompanying beliefs, usually come from our family of origin. (Ex: Our

parents criticized our character rather than our actions, leading us to doubt or sense of worth.)


G – O Go Home

GO. Generate Opposite. Find the most troubling thought or belief, and state its opposite as if it

were true. This helps you visualize what you want to achieve and move toward it. And it helps

reprogram habitual negative thoughts. (Ex: “I’m worthy of happiness.”)

Home. Higher Order + ME Work in collaboration with your divine guidance. Think of divine

guidance as your most important partner, and keep open communications. (Ex: I put aside some

time every morning to see what my guidance might have to say.)

Imagination. The most likely voice that the higher mind will use to communicate. If you have the

ability to imagine how you want to be, at the moment you conceive it, you are it. Play and

creativity offer shortcuts we wouldn’t be aware of otherwise. (Ex: I can write a fairy-tale ending to

my story now.)

JI. Joyful Intention. A lens we put in place purposefully which helps us see things in an entirely

new, more positive, way. The word Ji is associated with purposeful respect in several languages.

(Ex: I write in a gratitude journal each morning, giving respectful thanks for the things that add to

my life.)

KEY: (Know Excitement–Yours) Know (and do) what excites you as much as possible every day.

With the discovery of what we truly love to do, and the willingness to do it as much as possible

every minute of the day, we find our inspiration and our true selves. (Ex: As long as it excites me,

I’ll write every day. When the excitement has played out, I’ll know explore my excitement in some

other way.)

Leap of Faith: Behave “as if.” Fake it til you make it. Create your new reality though a game of

pretend. (Ex: To balance my introversion, I’ll assume the posture of an extrovert as many times as

possible throughout the day.)

More. More than one reality exists, and we can instantly move from one to the other like a train

changing tracks. Although it’s outside our perception, multiple universes have been hypothesized

across a broad spectrum of scientific inquiry, including cosmology, physics, and astronomy.

Imagine your life as a series of stories you invent, running along parallel tracks. Your sense of

freedom increases with the ability to move from one to the other at will. (Ex: My life is composed

of many drafts, each better than the one before. The past, present, and future are all negotiable.)

Neutralize Negatives. We are so entrenched in our thoughts that we sometimes need to work

incrementally. Have you ever tried to replace “I hate (fill in the blank)” with “I love (fill in the

blank with the same thing)?” Seems next to impossible, doesn’t it? One of the easiest way to

neutralize a negative thought is to state a non-judgmental (neutral) observation of what’s going on.

Later, you can replace the “observation” with a more positive spin. (Ex: The weather has gotten

suddenly cold. The wind feels strong. I am more comfortable if put on something warm.)

Operationalize. An action plan to use these Elements. This might mean you pick six of your

favorites, and match them with days of the week, giving yourself one day of rest. Or you can have

a daily routine, dedicating each morning to writing affirmations or a creative story sparked by

imagination. (Ex: Monday-Affirmations, Tuesday-Follow intuition, Wednesday-Stay open to

creativity, Thursday-Silently wish others well as often as possible, Friday-Do something that excites

me, Saturday-Behave as if my fairy-tale ending is here now, and Sunday-take a well-deserved rest!)

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